Is it true that today’s women, who are more able to live their lives without being in the shadow of a man, are losing touch with what it means to be feminine? Although, I would never argue that women must remain in an insubordinate position (as history suggests) in order to retain their femininity or that being feminine is synonymous with being subordinate. However, it has become in some cases apparent that as women are stepping from behind the shadow, direction, and dictation of men, we have begun to shed an essential part of our feminine nature. Consequently, this part of our nature is most revealed, nurtured, and matured when in contact and connected to the masculine nature of men.
Before you immediately shoot down my observation take into account that no matter how strong a woman is, or might appear on the outside; inside we are all precious and at times fragile flowers in need of love to grow. However, because that side of a our womanhood is becoming more and more hidden if not hardened and suppressed in an effort to compete, survive, and prosper in this male dominated world; men seeing only the outer shell are forgetting about the delicate and precious nature we hold inside. At the end of the day no matter how much we have accomplished, or how much we appear to be running alongside of men and sometimes even ahead, we still desire their love and need for them to handle our hearts with care.
This is not to say that we need to take a step back from our pursuits and back to the time where our nature was seen as so delicate that we had to be protected even from ourselves. But instead, only that we consider that as we grow and evolve from the kind of women who were bound to men, to the kind of women who vote, have careers, run for president, and make just as much money as men do, that we do not lost sight of the necessary nature God placed in us that is vital to the growth of our men, children, the world, and also ourselves.
We should not lose or reduce our grace and sensitivity which has the ability to turn away wrath. We should not lose our nurturing nature that not only intuitively picks up on the slightest needs of those around us, but also brings life to any need, plan, or place that is entrusted to our care. We should not also lose our acquiescent spirit that shows men that ruling in love has just as much if not more power than ruling through force, and that peace is always better than war. In my short life it has become clear to me that women can still be the strong women we have proven ourselves to be without sacrificing the woman that God created us to be.
Stephanie Kekeocha was born and raised in Chicago, IL. She has a bachelor’s degree in Liberal Arts and Sciences from University of Illinois at Chicago (UIC). Read more
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